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Where do you go for help?

  • You want to help your friend who has cancer
  • Your son has just lost his job and is at risk of losing his home
  • Your elderly Mom can no longer function in her home alone
  • Your colleague comes to you for help when his daughter has been raped
  • You discover your daughter has an eating disorder
  • You want to help your brother whose marriage is crumbling

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Helping Those Who Hurt

Below is a quick peak inside the book, and what each chapter covers.

Part 1: Illness and Hospital Visitation

  • Ministering Through Illness and a Hospital Visit
  • Differences Between a Social and Pastoral Visit
  • Dos and Don'ts for the Hospital Visitor
  • Potential Problems of Patients
  • Special Problems of Terminal Illness for Patient and Family
  • How to Care for Cancer Patients
  • Caring for Someone with HIV or AIDS

 Part 2: Crisis

  • Life Crises and Coping
  • The Uniqueness of Each Crisis
  • Helpful Information for Those in a Crisis
  • Steps to Follow During a Public Crisis
  • Common Responses of People in Crisis
  • Dos and Don'ts in Caring for Someone in Crisis
  • Types of Abuse
  • How to Recognize and Respond to a Child's Disclosure of Abuse

Part 3: Aging

  • When You Care for Me, I'd Like You to Remember That...
  • Helpful Information for the Elderly and Their Families Who Are Planning for the Future
  • Helpful Information for Those Caring for the Elderly
  • How to Arrange a Homebound Person's Environment

Part 4: Death

  • As the Time of Death Nears
  • Walking a Family Through a Death
  • Caring for a Family When a Child Has Died
  • Helpful Information for Parents of Children Dealing with Death
  • Suicide Warning Signs
  • Suicide Threats - What Should You Do?
  • Helpful Information for Those Who Lose Someone to Suicide
  • Helping Staff Members, Congregations, and Student Bodies Deal with Death, Including Suicide
  • Caring for Survivors of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS)
  • Helpful Information for Parents Who Have Lost a Child Through SIDS
  • Caring for Couples Experiencing Infertility, Miscarriage, or Infant Loss
  • Helping Families Cope with a Violent Death

Part 5: Grief

  • Helpful Things to Say to People Who Are Grieving
  • Helping Children Who Grieve
  • Symptoms of "Normal" Grief
  • Symptoms of Atypical Grief
  • Dos and Don'ts in Grief Care
  • Dos and Don'ts When Caring for the Newly Widowed
  • Helpful Information for the Recently Widowed

Part 6: Troubled Marriages and Divorce

  • Counceling Couples Whose Marriages Are Struggling
  • Helpful Information for Divorcing or Divorced Parents

Part 7: Addiction

  • What You Need to Know When Working with the Addicted
  • The Progression and Recovery of the Chemically Dependent
  • The Progression and Recovery of the Family
  • Descriptions of Eating Disorders
  • Helping the Eating Disordered
  • What to Do If the Person Refuses Help
  • A Word About Pornography
  • A Word About Gaming Addiction
  • A Word About Cutting

Part 8: Domestic Violence

  • Verbal Abuse or Lack of Conflict Management Skills?
  • Characteristics of a Battered Woman
  • Characteristics of a Batterer
  • Helpful Information for Domestic Violence Victims
  • Escape Checklist for Victims of Domestic Violence

Part 9: Rape

  • Helping the Victim of Rape
  • When the Memory Just Occurred
  • Helpful Information for Parents of a Rape Victim
  • Helpful Information for the Spouse of a Rape Victim

Part 10: Forgiveness

  • What People Need to Know About Forgiveness